I believe that each and everyone of us had gone through cyber bullying or mental bullying.
its a very difficult path i got to say..
they are just purely words but they are harmful.
victims may suicide due to cyber bullying, because their mind kept repeating how people hated them.
calling them names, saying mean stuff and even do something dirty behind their back & humiliating.
cyber bullying maybe be fun or due to some jealously. sometimes jealousy kills.
please put yourself in their shoes.
and those people that is being bullied please dont think of suicide think about your parents and friends.
they love you and they are always did. even i dont know you, i still cared. so this entry i am writing is all about you victims.
There’re a few cases of cyber bullying that i have researched:
Suicide of Megan Meier
Name :Megan Taylor Meier
Date Of Birth: November 6, 1992
(O’Fallon, Missouri, U.S.)
Died: October 17, 2006 (aged 13)
(Dardenne Prairie, Missouri, U.S.)
Cause of death: Suicide by hanging
Resting place: Saint Charles Memorial Gardens
After opening an account on MySpace, Meier received a message supposedly from a 16-year-old boy, Josh Evans, but actually sent by Lori Drew using a fabricated account. Meier & “Josh” became online friends, but never met in person or spoke. Meier thought he was attractive. Meier began to exchange messages with this person, and was described by family as having had her “spirits lifted”. This person claimed to have just moved to the nearby city of O’Fallon, was home schooled, and did not yet have a phone number.
On October 15, 2006, the tone of the messages changed, with Drew saying (via the account) “I don’t know if I want to be friends with you anymore because I’ve heard that you are not very nice to your friends”. Similar messages were sent; some of Megan’s messages were shared with others; and bulletins were posted about her. According to Meier’s father, Ronald Meier, and a neighbor who had discussed the hoax with Drew, the last message sent by the Evans account read: “Everybody in O’Fallon knows how you are. You are a bad person and everybody hates you. Have a shitty rest of your life. The world would be a better place without you.” Meier responded with a message reading “You’re the kind of boy a girl would kill herself over.” The last few correspondences were made via AOL Messenger instead of Myspace. She was found 20 minutes later in her bedroom closet; Megan had hanged herself. Despite attempts to revive her, she was pronounced dead the following day.
Six weeks after her death, Megan Meier’s parents were informed that the mother of one of their daughter’s friends—with whom Meier had a falling out—had created the “Josh Evans” account. The parent, Lori Drew, who created the fake account, admitted that she and her daughter had the password to the account, and characterized the hoax to a reporter as a “joke.” Initially, Drew denied knowing about the offensive messages that were sent to Meier. She told the police that the account was aimed at “gaining Megan’s confidence and finding out what Megan felt about her daughter and other people”. The neighborhood mother who had informed the Meiers that Drew had been responsible for the hoax account said “Lori laughed about it,” and that Drew said she had intended to “mess with Megan.” While Drew’s name was excluded from most early news stories, CNN disclosed her name through the inclusion of the police report in its broadcast of the story which many blogs then featured.
An Interview of her parents about her,
Suicide of Tyler Clementi
Name: Tyler Clementi
Born: April 29, 1992
Buffalo, New York, United States
Died: September 22, 2010 (aged 18)
New York City, New York, United States
Cause of death: Suicide by jumping
Clementi was born on April 29, 1992 in Buffalo, New York, and raised in Ridgewood, New Jersey. A graduate of Ridgewood High School, he was a talented violinist; he played with the Ridgewood Symphony Orchestra and participated in the Bergen Youth Orchestra as concertmaster. Ravi and Wei both graduated from West Windsor-Plainsboro High School North; Ravi lived in Plainsboro, New Jersey and Wei in Princeton, New Jersey.
According to Clementi’s instant messaging chats released in court documents filed by Ravi’s attorney, Clementi told his parents that he was gay before leaving home for college. While his father supported him, Clementi said that his mother had basically “rejected” him.
Clementi complained to his resident assistant and two other officials that Ravi, his roommate had videostreamed him kissing another man using a webcam. He wrote in detail on the Just Us Boys message board and Yahoo! message board about complaints he filed through university channels about his roommate. His posts indicated that he did not want to share a room with Ravi.
Clementi wrote that he had asked the resident assistant for a new room after having learned about the first incident and then discovering that Ravi invited his Twitter followers to watch a second sexual encounter. “He [the resident assistant] seemed to take it seriously,” Clementi wrote in a post about 15 hours before his jump from the George Washington Bridge. He wrote that he also reported the incident to two unnamed “higher-ups.” According to court documents filed by Ravi’s attorney, on September 20, 2010, Clementi wrote to a friend online that he was not really bothered by what Ravi had seen.
Clementi’s wallet was found on September 22 on the walkway adjacent to the George Washington Bridge’s New York-bound lanes after witnesses reported seeing someone jump. His car, cell phone, and computer were also found near the bridge. Police recovered a body on September 29 in the Hudson River just north of the bridge. It was confirmed the next day that the body recovered was that of Clementi.
Dharun Ravi and Molly Wei both Rutgers University have been charged for the suicide Ravi’s roommate, Tyler Clementi, committed after they filmed him having sex with his partner and uploaded the video on the internet.
The 19-year-old Dahrun Ravi mockingly narrated the event via his Twitter page saying that the 18-year-old Tyler Clementi asked him to have the room alone for few hours.
Doubting Clementi’s intentions, Dahrun Ravi planted a hidden camera in the room and while Clementi was in the room with his male partner, he filmed him and later, put the sex tape online.
When the tape became public, driven by embarrassment, Clementi committed suicide by jumping off the George Washington Bridge on Thursday, September 23, 2010. He left his car parked along the bridge with his cell phone and computer in it.
Both Ravi and Wei are charged with fourth-degree offense that would land them into prison for five years.
Suicide of Ryan Halligan
Name: Ryan Patrick Halligan
Born: December 18, 1989
Poughkeepsie, New York, U.S.
Died: October 7, 2003 (aged 13)
Essex Junction, Vermont, U.S.
Resting place: Holy Family Cemetery
Essex Junction, Vermont, U.S.
Religion: Roman Catholicism
Halligan was born on December 18, 1989 in Poughkeepsie, New York, the son of John P. and Kelly Halligan. His family moved to Essex Junction, Vermont, where Halligan attended Hiawatha Elementary School and, later, Albert D. Lawton Middle School. He was described by his father as a “gentle, very sensitive soul”, who experienced some developmental delays affecting speech and physical coordination in his early school years. Although he overcame those difficulties by the fourth grade, “He still struggled; school was never easy to him, but he always showed up with a smile on his face, eager to do his best”, said his father
In his 1999–2000 school year, Halligan suffered bullying at the hands of a group of students at his school because of his learning disorder. The bullies had decided that Ryan must be gay because he couldn’t play sports very well and was more inclined towards arts and crafts. They also saw him as an easy target as he was very sensitive and as a result often burst into tears about these insults. No one stuck up for Ryan as the bullies were all part of the school’s popular crowd. Ryan’s father states that when Ryan told him he was being picked on his initial response was to just ignore them since they were only bullying him with words. The family stated in a short documentary that Halligan enrolled in counseling, with little success. After that he moved up to middle school where the bullying continued on and off for the next 2 years.
In December 2002, the youngster told his father that the bullying had started again and asked for a Taebo Kick Boxing set for Christmas in order to learn how to defend himself against the bullies. At first Halligan wanted to go to the school principal and sort things out but Ryan wanted to learn how to fight believing that telling would only make things worse. After Christmas Ryan and his father got into a routine where they would practice downstairs in the basement for 2 hours every night. After Ryan had learned to defend himself his father told him that he didn’t ever want to hear that Ryan was picking fights at school but he told him that if any of the kids ever touched him Ryan had his father’s permission to defend himself as best as he could.
Following a fight in February 2003 which was broken up by the assistant principal, the bully stopped bothering Halligan. Towards the end of 7th grade, Halligan told his father that he and the bully had become friends. However, after Halligan told him about an embarrassing examination that he had at the hospital following stomach pains, the bully used the information to spread a rumor that Halligan was gay.
According to his father and news reports, Halligan spent much of his time online during the summer of 2003, particularly on AIM and other instant messaging services. Halligan didn’t tell his parents about any of this. During the summer, he was cyber-bullied by schoolmates who taunted him, thinking he was gay. Ryan was also bullied at school about this and father later found out about one occasion where he ran out of the classroom in tears. He unintentionally archived these conversations on his hard drive when he installed DeadAIM, a freeware program. His dad also found in this folder of archived conversations transcripts of online exchanges in which a popular girl, named Ashley, whom Halligan had a crush on pretended to like him but later told him at school that he was a “loser”. Ryan had hoped to convince her because she had once been his friend and had stuck up for him when the bullying first started until she became more popular in middle school according to the ABC Primetime report. He found out she only pretended to like him in order to retrieve personal information about him. Their private exchanges were copied and pasted into other IMs among his schoolmates to embarrass and humiliate him.
After he went up to the girl and she called him a loser, he said “It’s girls like you who make me want to kill myself”. Halligan found out about this later on because it was also a matter of record with the local police. Halligan’s father also discovered some disturbing conversations between Halligan and a boy with a screen name he didn’t recognize. Halligan had also begun communicating online with a pen-pal about suicide and death and told him he was thinking about suicide. They had also been exchanging information they had found on sites relating to death and suicide including sites that taught them how to painlessly kill themselves. The pen-pal answered “Phew. It’s about fucking time.” shortly after Ryan told him he was thinking about suicide, 2 weeks before he killed himself. This was the last conversation he ever had with the pen-pal. As Halligan found out contrary to popular belief Ryan’s pen-pal was a boy Ryan knew up until third grade when the boy and his parents moved away and that they had found each other online and reconnected.
Unfortunately the pen-pal who at this point was in the same grade as Ryan had, according to Halligan’s father, turned into a very negative person with a bleak outlook on life. Online they would talk about how much they hated the popular kids and how they made them feel and then the pen-pal suggested suicide as a way out saying that “If you killed yourself you would really make them feel bad.” Ryan’s father stated that the boy was the worst possible so called friend that Ryan could have had at this point in time. However his parents admitted there had been warning signs. He had been going on about how his report card would be bad. Ryan would keep going on about it stating that his parents would be so disappointed in him. One night he asked his dad if he had ever thought of suicide and father told him that he had but also said “Ryan, imagine if I did do that. Look at all the things we would have missed out on as a family.
On October 7, 2003, when John Halligan, Ryan’s father, was away on business, and everyone else in the Halligan family was sleeping early in the morning, Halligan committed suicide by hanging himself with his sister’s bathrobe tie. He learned how to hang himself via a website that specifically tells people how to make a noose. His body was found later by his older sister who woke up and went into the bathroom.
After Ryan Death,
Although Halligan left no suicide note, his father, John P. Halligan, learned of the cyberbullying when he accessed his son’s computer. He had checked his son’s yearbook first and found the faces of the bullying group scribbled out. Halligan had scribbled over the face of the ringleader (the same boy who fought Halligan, befriended him, and then started the gay rumor) so aggressively he had torn the paper. His parents also found a crude drawing of a boy hanging from a noose. Afterwards he went on to his son’s computer and first learned of the cyber-bullying when his son’s friends told him. He forgave the girl after he found out she was being blamed for Halligan’s suicide and was going to kill herself due to guilt over his death and subsequently had her brought over to his house. He reportedly said to her “You did a bad thing, but you’re not a bad person”. She would go on to speak out against bullying with Halligan’s father on the popular show ABC Primetime. Although the Halligans moved out of Vermont, she still maintains contact with the Halligans.
He confronted the bully who had started the gay rumor after he found out he had made fun of how Halligan killed himself through another parent. At first he was so angry he wanted to go over there and “crush that kid and kill him” but later changed his mind after getting caught in traffic and had time to think over his wife’s warning not to do anything to the child he might regret. Halligan reportedly said “You have no idea the amount of pain you caused my son. And you’re still bullying him now even when he’s defenseless and you are still lying to your parents about it. I refuse to believe that you are so cruel and that you don’t have a heart.” Shortly afterwards the bully broke down into tears and repeatedly apologized for what he did.
John Halligan also wanted to file charges against the bully but the police informed him that there wasn’t a criminal law they could charge him with. However he also forgave the bully along with the girl. Halligan’s father also learned the name of Halligan’s pen-pal and tracked him to his house and spoke to his parents. He went over there to delete all the conversations between him and Halligan after he posted a conversation between them on his profile. Halligan stated that he didn’t want the penpal to use the conversations for “something dark”. However he was scared that the boy was thinking of commiting suicide even telling the father so before he went to their house. Whilst he was over there he discovered that the boy’s father never received any hard copies of the conversations. At this point the penpal’s mother came and pulled out the hard copies from under the sofa showing them to the father for “what appeared to be the first time”. Whilst the father was looking at the copies the mother threw him out. According to Halligan he never got a satisfying response from the boy or his family. He still visits the boy’s website which contains several references to death and suicide
An Interview of his parents with Oprah,
Name:Phoebe Nora Mary Prince
Born: November 24, 1994
Bedford, England, U.K.
Died: January 14, 2010 (aged 15)
South Hadley, Massachusetts, U.S.
Cause of death: Suicide by hanging
Nationality: United Kingdom
Having recently moved to the U.S. from Ireland, Prince was taunted and bullied for several months by at least two groups of students at South Hadley High School, reportedly because of disputes with other girls over her brief relationships with a senior high school football player and another male student. Her aunt allegedly warned school officials in August 2009, prior to Prince’s enrollment at the school, to watch after Prince, as she was “susceptible” to bullying and was bullied in Ireland.
On January 14, 2010, after a day of harassment and taunting, followed by a final incident in which a student threw a can at her from a passing car as she walked home from school, Prince committed suicide by hanging herself in the stairwell leading to the second floor of the family apartment. Her body was discovered by her 12-year-old sister. After her death, many crude comments about her were posted on her Facebook memorial page, most of which were removed. Her parents chose to have Prince interred in Ireland.
A meeting held at the school to discuss the problem of bullying at the school brought parents who stated that bullying of their children had been completely ignored by the school administration. Massachusetts state lawmakers sped up efforts to pass anti-bullying legislation as a result of this incident, and the measure was signed into law on May 3, 2010. Inspired by the Massachusetts bill, similar legislation was introduced in New York State. In efforts to promote national anti-bullying legislation, a “Phoebe’s Law” has been proposed. In July 2010, the South Hadley school committee adopted a more comprehensive anti-bullying policy.
On March 29, 2010, Northwestern District Attorney Elizabeth Scheibel announced at a press conference that nine teenagers from South Hadley High School were indicted as adults on felony charges by a Hampshire County grand jury. Charges ranged from statutory rape for the two male teenagers involved (both adults under Massachusetts law) to violation of civil rights, criminal harassment, disturbance of a school assembly, and stalking. Additional delinquency complaints were also filed against the three female minors indicted by the grand jury. One was charged with assault with a deadly weapon for throwing a can at Phoebe Prince. A separate delinquency complaint was filed against one of the three female minors for assault and battery against another victim at South Hadley High School (a girl who was attacked at school after appearing in a TV news report describing the bullying that took place at South Hadley High School). At least four of these six students reportedly were still attending South Hadley High School when the charges were announced.
After reading those stories, i hope you felt the same way as how i felt.
there is a movie spell as “CyberBu//y” also known as “Cyber Bully”, that movie had well shown how a cyber bullying is done and how victim felt and suicide committed. do have a look at the clip i have below, a scene where her friends where ignoring her and bullying at schools take places and etc.
Here’s a link of Wikipedia, how many people died due to hanging themselves.